Moms and Partners need to set boundaries before the baby is even born. I would talk to everyone who you know to give them a list of things you’d like done or not done. One example could be a sign on the door ,ask anyone coming by to set a certain time and no spur of the moment visits and please abide by the visiting hours posted on the front door, ask to wash hands and remove shoes. Post this sign above in plain sight for all to see. You are not being demanding by being this way you know people always ask what they can do ,this is a great way to let them know! Another thought is ask for help in form of a postpartum doula. Gift certificates at the baby shower make a great gift!!! hint hint!