Moms and Partners need to set boundaries before the baby is even born. I would talk to everyone who you know to give them a list of things you’d like done or not done. One example could be a sign on the door ,ask anyone coming by to set a certain time and no spur of the moment visits and please abide by the visiting hours posted on the front door, ask to wash hands and remove shoes. Post this sign above in plain sight for all to see. You are not being demanding by being this way you know people always ask what they can do ,this is a great way to let them know! Another thought is ask for help in form of a postpartum doula. Gift certificates at the baby shower make a great gift!!! hint hint!
Years ago, fathers were made to wait in the hallways and waiting rooms until they heard how their partners and babies were doing. This is no longer the case.
Times have changed and now fathers get to be very involved in the birth of their children. They have to try and remember all of the labor terms, medical procedures, positions and massages, techniques for a more comfortable labor as well as how to keep mom breathing and relaxed, all without leaving the mother’s side.
A doula does not take the place of the father. Rather, she is there to support the mother and father together as part of the birth team. Studies have even shown that it can help bring a couple closer and make the birth more intimate. With doula support, fathers tend to stay more involved with their partner rather than pull away in times of stress. We are there to help bring out dad’s inner super star supportive self, and enable him to show his love for his wife as she labors to bring your baby earthside.
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